When someone messes up, or does something you do not agree with or like, and it backfires on them do you say “I hope you have learned your lesson”?
When you look back at your past failed relationships yet you kept running back to that person, did you ever think “When will I learn my lesson”?
When you sit back and acknowledge all of your accomplishments, do you ever say to yourself “Wow, look at all of the lessons I have learned”?
I do. I have my mom to thank for most of them. She is the strongest person I know and definitely helped shape me into the person I am today. While she has taught me a lot in life, I summed up several points I found most important.
- Know Your Worth
It is so important to know who you are and what you deserve. If you don’t or aren’t able to realize how amazing you are, then no one else will treat you the way you should be treated. If you can’t acknowledge how amazing you are, how do you expect anyone else to treat you the same?
2. Be Independent
You cannot ever rely on anyone else; you need to make sure you can take care of yourself, live on your own and be your own person. If you find that you are depending on another person to take care of your needs and make you happy, then you need to quickly reevaluate the situation and ask yourself if this is the ‘real you’ and if this is who you want to be. In order to make others happy and live your best life, you must first make sure that you are happy on your own. You need to be able to function and thrive alone before you can thrive in any relationship.
3. What You Say Matters
I feel like this goes without saying but you need to be careful and cautious of your words. Once they are spoken, they can never be taken back. You can apologize and hope to move on, but you cannot take them back or pretend they were never said. We all like to say that words don’t hurt, but we know they do. Words can do damage. One piece of advice that an old coach told me was “Never say anything you would not want published for the entire world to see”.
4. You Have To Fight For Yourself
Listen, if you don’t believe in yourself and would not be willing to fight for yourself, who else is going to want to? Be strong. Be an advocate for yourself. What you have to say is valid and important and everyone deserves a voice. Never ever let anyone tell you that you are not allowed to speak up. If you feel like there is something that needs to be said, in any capacity, speak up. Say it. Let the world hear it. Be heard. We spend a lot of time tearing each other down and allowing ourselves to be torn down. Enough is enough. Do you have something to say? Say it. Do you believe strongly about something? Fight for it.
5. Work Hard and Be Humble
In this day and age, some things are just handed to us and that is okay. There are people out there who just get lucky. If you are one of those people, be humble. Be appreciative. Realize you have been blessed. Just because you have been lucky, you still need to work hard and keep on working hard and striving for greatness. If you want something badly, work hard. It will come. It might not happen exactly when you want it to happen, but it will happen eventually.
6. Don’t Lie
Look, no one is perfect. We are all humanly flawed and we all make mistakes. It is never a mistake to lie. Lying is not a mistake, it is a choice. Telling a lie is the absolute worst thing you can do. Hurt someone with the truth, but do not try to shield them with or protect them with a lie. Once you betray a person’s trust, which is so sacred, your relationship and their view of you will forever be changed. Always, always tell the truth.
7. Relax
This is probably the hardest thing to do and so much easier said than done. Everything will be okay in the end. It all works out like it is supposed to. There is no use in worrying about it, or stressing over it, because it will certainly not change the outcome. Instead of getting anxious and losing your patience, take a deep breath and just relax. Worrying doesn’t make it any better; it only makes it worse.
I do try to live my life through this advice and while there are some days that I struggle, and some days are harder than others, it definitely helps change your outlook. It helps your perspective.
Take a moment to sit back and enjoy life. It can be bumpy at times but do your best to enjoy the ride.
xoxo
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